July 2010 – Personality Pixels

Snapshots of The Personalities

Why We Tend to Marry Opposites

The same — but different?

Most people tend to marry someone with a personality opposite from their own. We are usually attracted to people with qualities and strengths different from ours. A simplified explanation is that we see in them traits we would like to have—and they see that in us.

How does it happen?
Remember the famous philosopher in the movie, Rocky? He explained it clearly in a few words. When asked about his relationship with Adrian, the girl he was going to marry, Rocky quickly answered:

She’s got gaps, I got gaps; together we fill gaps.
– Rocky Balboa

We perceive that the other person has what we need. They fill in our gaps
We usually marry the person who we sense has some of what we don’t. (more…)