Why the 5-to-1 Ratio Works

Why do many of us remember all the negative things (in detail) that our spouse did or said from the beginning of the relationship until today? Why do we remember critical remarks more than positives ones? Why can’t a critical remark simply be erased by a positive remark? Why can’t a big bouquet of roses from him or a coveted ticket to his favorite sporting event from her make up for several things that caused hurt feelings? There is a reason. No, it’s not just a woman thing. You can blame it on the brain. (more…)

Cups and Conversations just seem to go together, don’t they? Enjoying hot chocolate, coffee, broth, or tea can represent friendship, laughs, maybe tears, fun times or serious decisions. It can mean making memories —or seeking and sharing advice and wisdom.

Do you have a cherished memory that began over a cup of coffee?

It may have taken place around a campfire, in a restaurant or coffee shop, at a kitchen table gazing at a garden scene, or snow flakes falling, or even in a conference room.

Your Cups and Conversations memory may stem from times you spent with a sister, brother, parent, son or daughter, husband, wife, neighbors, colleagues, or with a special someone in your life. (more…)